One of the Reasons I Heart My Mom

Despite the fact that she sends me lots of chain-mail, she also forwards along little gems like these:

"Women carry the shame of so many double binds: she is denied arousal because she is a slut and a whore if she acknowledges her desire; she is supposed to be alluring for a man, but she is not supposed to plan it because if she plans it, she if full of carnal lust and insatiable; she is denied information and education about her own body, her sexuality and so she must learn as she goes, inadvertently.

Her challenge is to pull all this off while looking innocent and totally unaware of it all. All women have internalized shame concerning sex to some degree which makes it very difficult to address the sexual aspect of adult life and relationships directly.

Any woman who achieves a level of comfort about her sexuality in this society has gained no small triumph."


"The essential quality of a revolutionary is to be able to fantasize."
- Roman Polanski.

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